Where to start
Everyone starts with the Drift Check. It is free, 24 questions, about 5 minutes, and it shows you where the distance is right now before you go looking for why. You take it, your partner takes it, and you see the two answers side by side.
That last part is the point. A quiz you take alone tells you how you feel. LVRS FRVR is built for two, so what you get back is the gap between you, which is the thing that actually moves.
Then: the channel your love travels on
SPARK names five channels for expressing love. Most couples who feel far apart are not short on love. They are sending it on a channel their partner does not receive, year after year, and both of them end up feeling unloved while both of them are loving hard.
Speakers
Express love through words. Affirmation and naming.
Providers
Express love through acts. Doing, fixing, helping.
Adorers
Express love through touch. Closeness and contact.
Rememberers
Express love through tokens. Gifts, surprises, recall.
Keepers
Express love through time. Full, undivided presence.
And: the shape your wanting takes
FREAK names five desire styles in plain words. It is the least awkward way we have found to have a conversation most couples avoid for a decade.
Flame
Spontaneous. Ignites fast and gets drawn in.
Reverent
Intentional. A sacred frame, ritual and meaning.
Explorer
Novelty led. Seeks variety and new ground.
Attuned
Responsive. Builds with emotional context.
Kinesthetic
Body led. Embodied and presence driven.
What we are not going to ask you
How often. Across more than thirty thousand people, having sex more often went with feeling happier only up to about once a week. Past that, more did not add anything. It was never a numbers game.
Here is what does matter. In the same study of 43 datasets and more than eleven thousand couples, sexual satisfaction landed in the top three things a relationship could have, right beside believing your partner is committed and feeling appreciated. That is a thing you build, which means it is a thing you can rebuild.
What is free and what is not
The Drift Check is free and it is where everyone starts. SPARK and FREAK are paid bonus modules that open after it, along with the rest of the library. We would rather tell you that here than at the end of a quiz. See what is included.
Same love. Wrong channel. That is fixable.
24 questions. About 5 minutes. Free to start, together.
Common questions
Is there a good intimacy quiz for couples?
LVRS FRVR has two, and they are built to be taken together rather than alone. SPARK measures the channel your love travels on, across five styles. FREAK measures the shape your wanting takes, across five desire styles. Both open after the free Drift Check, which is the 5 minute starting point that shows where the distance is first.
How long does the intimacy quiz take?
The free Drift Check is 24 questions and takes about 5 minutes. SPARK is 25 questions and takes about 5 minutes as well. You get your result right away, in plain language, with one small thing to do about it.
Do both partners have to take it?
Yes, and that is on purpose. LVRS FRVR is built for two people. A single score tells you how one person feels. Two scores side by side show you the gap between you, which is the thing that actually moves. Your partner gets their own invite and answers privately.
Is the intimacy quiz free?
The Drift Check is free and it is where everyone starts. SPARK and FREAK are paid bonus modules that unlock after it. We say that plainly here so nobody finds out at the end of a quiz.
What is the difference between SPARK and FREAK?
SPARK is about how love is sent and received day to day, through words, acts, touch, tokens, or time. FREAK is about desire specifically, and names five styles for how wanting shows up. Couples usually find that one of the two explains the miss they have been having for years.