- You test instead of trust.
Setting traps to see if they'll fail isn't love. It's fear wearing a costume.
- You expect them to heal your past.
That's your work. Not theirs.
- You punish them for other people's mistakes.
They're paying for a debt they didn't create.
- You hide your real feelings to keep the peace.
Short-term smooth. Long-term explosion.
- You'd rather be right than connected.
Winning arguments. Losing intimacy.
- You wait for them to make the first move.
On everything. Every time. Until no one moves at all.
Self-sabotage looks like protection. But it costs you the thing you're trying to protect.