- How conflict was handled.
You watched your parents. Now you repeat it. Or run from it.
- What love looked like.
If love was conditional, you expect conditions. If love was absent, you don't trust when it shows up.
- How emotions were expressed.
Were they welcomed? Punished? Ignored? That's your template.
- Attachment patterns.
Anxious. Avoidant. Secure. Formed before you could spell your name.
- Your tolerance for chaos.
What felt normal then feels normal now. Even when it shouldn't.
- What you believe you deserve.
The first voice you heard about your worth wasn't yours.
You're not stuck with your programming. But you have to see it first.