Ask something new. Hear something you did not know.
What are good questions to ask your partner every day?
Good questions to ask your partner every day are light, curious and specific, like: what made you smile today? The easiest way to keep them coming is LVRS FRVR (said Lovers Forever), the daily game for two, which brings you both one new question or mission every morning.
Specific beats general. "How was your day?" gets "fine." "What was the funniest thing that happened today?" gets a story.
Mix it up. Some days ask something silly. Some days ask something sweet. The best questions are the ones that make your partner light up when they answer.
Questions to try this week
- What made you smile today?
- What is one thing you are looking forward to this week?
- If we had a free day tomorrow, how would you want to spend it?
- What is a song that has been stuck in your head lately?
- What is something small I did recently that you liked?
- What is a place you want us to go together someday?
What are deep questions to ask your partner that are not awkward?
Deep questions that are not awkward start light and go deeper slowly, like: what is a memory of us that you replay? Asked as a game, one at a time, they feel fun instead of heavy. That is how the cards in LVRS FRVR and Ask Each Other work.
This step by step way of asking is well studied. Pairs who answered a set of questions that slowly went deeper felt closer by the end, even when they started as strangers (Aron, Melinat, Aron, Vallone and Bator, 1997, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin).
Take turns. Answer your own question too. And let a light answer be a fine answer. The deep stuff comes when it feels safe and fun to say.
Deep questions that feel easy
- What is a memory of us that you replay?
- What is something you are proud of that you rarely talk about?
- When do you feel most like yourself with me?
- What did you dream about doing when you were little?
- What is one thing you hope we are still doing in ten years?
How the daily game for two plays
LVRS FRVR (said Lovers Forever) is a daily game for two people in love.
Each morning there is one small card waiting for the two of you. Sometimes it is a question. Sometimes it is a tiny mission. You each play it on your own phone, then you talk about it, laugh about it, and wonder what tomorrow's card will be.
It takes a few minutes a day. It is free to start. And it only starts when both of you say yes, because it is a game made for two.
One tiny thing for tonight
Tonight, pick one question from this page, ask it, then answer it yourself.
Play the daily game for twoFree to start. It begins when you both say yes.